Last night, over dinner with a friend, we discussed how difficult it can be to change, to divorce, to let go of relationships, sometimes even family, to quit jobs (or be fired) when they no longer serve. We have a lot of judgment about endings, ‘failures’ we call them. But we both felt that in our lives these endings had only served to propel us further into better and more fulfilling lives, despite how society might judge us and how me might judge ourselves. We agreed we should welcome the sorrow that comes with an ending and release the judgment. Because many of us start out our lives with only a glimmer of who we truly are. We make choices from that place that later, when we have grown more into ourselves, no longer fit.
It’s life affirming to allow ourselves to change our external circumstances when this happens, to ‘re-pot’ our lives. We live so long now compared to a couple of hundred years ago and as women especially and men too, we have so much more opportunity to choose who we want to be and how we live our lives. I think it’s important to celebrate the right and the ability to change as we need to. To become more than we were. As Joseph Campbell, a mythologist who has greatly influenced my life and work, says “The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.”